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LGBT Couples Use Mediation for Separation, Dissolution, or Divorce

It’s easy to imagine why a divorce can be a cause of such difficult and stressful times for most couples. When LGBT couples decide to part ways, whether it involves dissolving a domestic partnership or a legally recognized marriage, they need to make similar decisions to heterosexual couples such as property and debt division, child support and custody, pet custody, spousal support, financial and tax issues, or health and life insurance. As various states continue to grant the LGBT community equal rights, it is important for LGBT couples to seek legal guidance and protection that will stand the test of time.

Until the late 1990s, California family law did not address the issues faced by LGBT couples and many partners felt vulnerable, their future left to the mercy of the court. Since then, laws have changed to encompass many lifestyle situations. Today laws are changing even faster in regard to LGBT families, and they can differ greatly from state to state, which can make conflict resolution even more complicated legally. There has been a rise in the number of attorneys and mediators specializing in LGBT relationships so they can specifically meet the needs of this community. That is why it is important for you to choose a mediator who is highly knowledgeable in LGBT legal separation, domestic partnership termination, and marriage dissolution, and who has a lot of experience helping LGBT couples and their unique situations. Take advantage of a mediator’s free first consultation to evaluate if he or she has the experience in addressing the diverse needs of today’s ever-changing families with sensitivity and understanding. Do not hesitate to ask if the mediation staff is specifically trained in same-sex couples issues and is sensitive to the nuances in these relationships.

When it comes to choosing between a divorce mediator and a divorce attorney, it is important to remember that mediation has many advantages. In many cases it will be less expensive, less hostile and overall faster. Divorce and separation mediation enables LGBT couples to stay in charge throughout the process and handle their unique issues personally. Same-sex couples can make important life decisions together that they will be able to live with, instead of relying on third-party decisions made by attorneys or the courts.

To learn more about the mediation process, complete our request for a free online evaluation, and to receive a free 30-minute phone consultation, visit us at, or call 619-702-9174.

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Principal Mediator

A Fair Way Mediation Center offers a relaxed, compassionate atmosphere in an informal setting that encourages a calm and objective approach.  This is a safe space that avoids the stress and embarrassment that courtroom procedures can inject into any divorce or separation.  All couples are welcome, whether traditional or same sex families. An experienced Mediator, Mr.  Gordon has worked in all facets of alternate dispute resolution (ADR), with both individuals and organisations.  He brings a friendly approach that is conducive to cooperation.