When people compare and label your kids

Pamela Varady, PsyD Psychologist and Parenting Expert, shares advice for parents on how to best respond when people compare your kids to help them have an expansive identity
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When people compare and label your kids

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Often people will pigeon-hole your kids. They will try to put them in a category because we are wired biologically to do that, to make sense of our world, to put it in a neat, organized fashion. It's not so good for the kids. It's not so great when grandma says, "She's the pretty one and she's the smart one;" as if you can't be smart and pretty. It's really important that we help our kids with this. So if somebody says, "Johnny is so quiet one and Tommy is really talkative." It's important to say something, "Yeah, you're right Johnny isn't talking much, but boy can he talk up a storm at home." In this way, the kids hear that they are just not one thing. They have much more room to grow and they have a much more expansive identity.

Pamela Varady, PsyD Psychologist and Parenting Expert, shares advice for parents on how to best respond when people compare your kids to help them have an expansive identity

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Pamela Varady, PsyD

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Dr. Pamela Varady is a Child and Adult Psychologist and sought-after parenting expert. She has appeared as a relationship expert on NBC, Discovery Health Network, The Today Show and Fox TV.  Dr. Varady wrote a workbook, 15 Minutes To Sibling Harmony and conducts seminars and Purposeful Parenting Classes throughout Southern California. In addition, Dr. Varady operates Dynamic Learning and Listening Center for children with special needs with her husband, Dr. Jackson Varady and sister, Dr. Jennifer Glasser, who are also psychologists. Pamela lives in Santa Monica with her husband and 13 year old twin boys.

 

 

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