Advice for parents starting divorce process

Shamsah Amersi, MD Obstetrician & Gynecologist, shares advice for parents starting the divorce process on how to make the process as easy for your kids as possible
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Advice for parents starting divorce process

For a parent starting a divorce, I want you to know that things are happening exactly the way they should. It's the detours in your life that make your life more interesting. Although the divorce was the most painful, life-changing experience of my time, I found that it helped me grow in ways unimaginable. I've become a better mother, a physician, and most importantly, a person. It's allowed me to view the world not as black or white, but a grey area where I don't judge anyone, and I know there's a story behind what anyone is experiencing. What I've learned is that it's okay to fall; it's okay to fall flat on your face, but to get back up and ask for as many hands possible to help you. I've learned to laugh and to find humor in my situation. I've learned, most importantly, to realize that it's okay and you will be fine. Things that I would have done differently are not being angry and not overreacting. It's not a time to blame, but it's a time to focus on your child and make him or her the priority. Attorneys, they truthfully just exacerbate the situation and cause so much emotional rift between the two of you. Never bad-mouth the other parent; they love the child as much as you do. Never fight for custody; both of you are parents and both of you are equally important in the child's life. At the end of the day, the child needs both mother and father to love them and to co-parent effectively.

Shamsah Amersi, MD Obstetrician & Gynecologist, shares advice for parents starting the divorce process on how to make the process as easy for your kids as possible


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Shamsah Amersi, MD

Obstetrician & Gynecologist

Shamsah Amersi, MD is a preeminent Board Certified physician in Obstetrics and Gynecology. She received her undergraduate degree in psychobiology from UCLA, where she graduated summa cum laude, with Phi Beta Kappa membership. At the prestigious, UC San Francisco medical school, Dr. Amersi graduated with top honors, and was recognized as a distinguished member of alpha omega alpha, an honor society for the top 5% of all medical doctors.

Dr. Amersi has received numerous professional and academic awards, including the University of California Distinguished Scholar Award for four consecutive years, an endowed merit scholarship, and the UCLA Alumni Association Achievement Award for four consecutive years. Through her private practice in Santa Monica, CA, Dr. Amersi is the personal physician to several Hollywood A-list celebrities. Dr. Amersi has been in private practice as an obstetrician/gynecologist for over ten years. She specializes in natural child birth, offers VBACs to her patients, and focuses on natural conservative treatment options, minimally invasive surgery, and bioidentical hormone replacement. Her favorite part of her job is delivering babies and sharing this intimate journey with her patients. She provides comprehensive compassionate care for all phases of a woman's life from adolescence through menopause.  Her special interest in female sexuality, libido and the effects of childbirth on pelvic prolapse has led to Dr. Amersi's renowned expertise in these fields. She performs both surgical and nonsurgical treatments for pelvic prolapse and vaginal relaxation.


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