Talk It To Death Syndrome

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Talk It To Death Syndrome

There is an epidemic of disorders among kids today, ADD, OCD, ODD. I see an epidemic among parents, and I call it, TTD, Talk It To Death Syndrome. First of all, 93 percent of our communication is non-verbal. It's probably even higher for a young child. A young child, up until around seven, they don't hear so much of what we say, but they take in everything else about what we are doing. Also, we don't want to wake the child from their dreamy, imaginative state by all this barage of explanations and justifications. It's also unnerving for the young child, and puts them into a bit of a state of insecurity, to have their parents yammering on and on. Credible leaders don't do that. Another thing that has really been a problem with TTD is we don't want to interrupt the child's natural sense of wonder and awe. We want to support it. There is this tendency, especially among dads, to bombard with facts. The child will say, "Oh look daddy, a rainbow on the wall." The dad will say, "Yes, Samantha, that's from the sunlight going through my watch there on the counter and refracting and displaying on the wall." That sort of takes away from the wonder and awe. He might just say what special qualities rainbows have.

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Marcy Axness, PhD

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Marcy Axness, PhD, is an early development specialist, popular international speaker, and author of Parenting for Peace: Raising the Next Generation of Peacemakers. She is a top blogger at and a member of their expert panel. Featured in several documentary films as an expert in adoption, prenatal development and Waldorf education, Dr. Axness has a private practice coaching parents-in-progress. She considers as one of her most important credentials that she raised two peacemakers to share with the world -- Ian and Eve, both in their 20s. 

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