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Parenting pitfalls

A huge parenting pitfall is speaking to your child in wishy-washy, equivocal terms. I'll give you an example. "It's time to get your sweater on, okay?" The word "okay" is probably the worst four-letter word you can use with a child because it conveys that you don't really know what is supposed to happen. It's epidemic. It's part of our culture. Parents really need to be mindful about how they are communicating. "Do you want to get your shoes on now?" That's equivocal. We don't think anything of it, but the young child is really looking to us to be a credible, strong, calm, loving, authority figure. It's clear messages that you want to convey, and limited choices. Too many choices is another big parenting pitfall. I like to limit the amount of choices to the age a child is, plus one. If they are four, they get five choices a day, period.

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Marcy Axness, PhD

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Marcy Axness, PhD, is an early development specialist, popular international speaker, and author of Parenting for Peace: Raising the Next Generation of Peacemakers. She is a top blogger at and a member of their expert panel. Featured in several documentary films as an expert in adoption, prenatal development and Waldorf education, Dr. Axness has a private practice coaching parents-in-progress. She considers as one of her most important credentials that she raised two peacemakers to share with the world -- Ian and Eve, both in their 20s. 

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