What happens when parents fight children's battles for them

Best-Selling Parenting Author, Harry H. Harrison Jr. shares advice for parents on the importance of letting your kids fight their own battles, and explains what can happen if you handle all their problems for your child
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What happens when parents fight children's battles for them

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Today we are teaching our children to become more parent dependent than independent. It's not because we don't love them. It's because we love them so much, we think we need to do everything for them. We need to go to the teachers and fight their battles. We need to go to the principals and fight their battles. The coaches and say, "Why isn't my son starting?" We need to go to the judge and say, "He was speeding, but please let him off." We are teaching our children that when there is a problem, go to your parents. We are not teaching them to solve the problem themselves. When you realize childhood is the perfect training ground for adult hood, then we should realize that and force them to be independent. Force them to handle situations themselves when they are 14 or 15 or 16. The situations they will encounter when they are 30 or 40 are going to be totally different. Right now, we are raising a bunch of children that, at 25, are parent dependent. It's much more important for children to learn not to depend on us, but they have to have the strength. They have the capabilities to handle their own problems, and they learned it in childhood.

Best-Selling Parenting Author, Harry H. Harrison Jr. shares advice for parents on the importance of letting your kids fight their own battles, and explains what can happen if you handle all their problems for your child

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Harry H. Harrison Jr.

Best-Selling Parenting Author

Harry Harrison is the New York Times best-selling author of some of the most well known parenting books in the world.  He has appeared on television shows across the country, been interviewed on over 50 national radio programs including NPR, and is a regular contributor to websites like Dr. Laura.com, Sheknows.com, parentingpink.com, storknet.com, and sharecare.com (a collaboration between Dr. Oz and Dr. Phil).

His books aren’t the normal narrative read, but concise, sometimes hilarious, sometimes poignant chunks of inspiration and advice that parents read and reread over again. He has also written two eBooks directed towards college students to guide and motivate them to earn a college degree.  Mr. Harrison and his wife, Melissa, have raised two incredible sons.

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