Knowing a child's academic capabilities

Denene Millner, Bestselling Author & Founder of MyBrownBaby, shares advice for parents pressuring your kids the right amount based on their capabilities
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Knowing a child's academic capabilities

Pressure is good for kids. You can't have your child walking this earth thinking that they don't have to try. Putting pressure on them shows them what they can achieve, how it's not easy to do it, but it can be done. My little girls know that As are a given because they're smart enough to get As. And if they come home with a B we're going to discuss why what should have been an is a B, not because I feel like they're failures, but because I know what they're capable of. So it's not so much pressure as it is reminding them what they're capable of. Of course, there are people who will argue that putting too much pressure on a child can be detrimental to them. I tend to think differently. I think that there are specific things that you can apply just a little bit of pressure if you know what your child is capable of. So I know that my kid can't run a marathon tomorrow. I'm not going to put pressure on her to do that. But I know what she's capable of. I know that she's capable of getting As. I know that if she practices her trumpet, she's going to be a fantastic trumpet player. You know, applying that pressure and helping them to understand what they're powerful at, what they're good at helps them be better people.

Denene Millner, Bestselling Author & Founder of MyBrownBaby, shares advice for parents pressuring your kids the right amount based on their capabilities


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Denene Millner

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New York Times best-selling author Denene Millner is a hotly sought after award-winning journalist whose insightful and captivating pieces have secured her foothold in the entertainment, parenting and book publishing industries. Millner spent the last decade working as a columnist, contributing editor and blogger for Parenting, a national magazine for which she provided witty, engaging, mom-to-mom advice on ethics and etiquette in everything from childrearing and marriage to work and friendship. Currently, she also is the founder and editor of, a critically acclaimed, award-winning blog that examines parenting and motherhood through the multi-cultural experience. Millner frequently contributes as an entertainment writer for Essence, the most well-read and respected magazine for African American women, and has written for a plethora of national publications and prestigious websites, including Parenting, HealthEbony, JetHeart & SoulReal Health, Money, iVillage,, TodayMoms, and The Root, among others. Her extensive television experience includes regular appearances on the The Today Show, CBS Early ShowThe Nate Berkus Show, HLN, CNN, MSNBC, VH1, and the Rachel Ray show. Millner also is the author of 21 books. The former political reporter and entertainment journalist lives in the Atlanta area with her husband and their two daughters.

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