When narcissism becomes dangerous to children

Psychotherapist & Author Wendy Behary, LCSW, shares advice for parents on when a parents narcissism can be dangerous to a child and how it endangers them
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When narcissism becomes dangerous to children

In the 2nd edition of my book I write about parallist narcissism. It's when narcissism becomes dangerous. And narcissism can become dangerous to your child. If you're living with a narcissist who feels entitle to drink and drive - because I don't get drunk, other people do. I know how to handle the road. What's the big deal? Then your child is a passenger in that car, your child is at risk because of not just the drinking and driving but the attitude that it's perfectly okay. If you're living with a narcissist who takes not even a second thought about yelling, screaming, anger, cursing even if it's not directed at the child but especially if it is. We know that children can develop large amount of shame just from too much anger in the room. We know that. That's documented in the data. We know that children can begin to feel that they are worthless as a result to being exposed to that either vicariously or as a direct onslaught to their personality. We know we have to step in especially if physical abuse happens. Narcissist can in some cases become highly volatile. And so their capacity to become verbally abusive as well as physical abusive gets revved up. The effects of that on the child are highly damaging to their self esteem, to their sense of worth and to the behaviors that they will bring into the community as a result of learning this message.

Psychotherapist & Author Wendy Behary, LCSW, shares advice for parents on when a parents narcissism can be dangerous to a child and how it endangers them


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Wendy T. Behary, LCSW

Psychotherapist & Author

With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy is also the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST).

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of the New Harbinger Publication (1st and upcoming 2nd edition) Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. She is also an expert in coaching individuals in interviewing, public speaking, and interpersonal skills enhancement.

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