How narcissists develop a sense of entitlement

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How narcissists develop a sense of entitlement

The entitlement piece in narcissism develops either from modeling, you know, growing up with parents who have shown in their own behaviors that they are special, that they don’t have to wait their turn, they don’t have to follow the rules, they don’t have to be reciprocal, that they can have what they want, when they want it. It’s the VIP family, I like to call it. And so sometimes it’s just purely through the modeling that the child continues down the generational path and will act out the same behaviors. The other type is the narcissist who uses the entitlement as a way of compensating for not feeling very special or very lovable. So they act in ways that are very entitled. They demand that their rights be taken into account, that they are important people, that they don’t have time to waste. So they act this way often as a way of hiding, of covering up the part of themselves that feels inadequate, that feels ashamed, that feels disconnected from the real world in many cases.

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Wendy T. Behary, LCSW

Psychotherapist & Author

With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy is also the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST).

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of the New Harbinger Publication (1st and upcoming 2nd edition) Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. She is also an expert in coaching individuals in interviewing, public speaking, and interpersonal skills enhancement.

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