Is your co-parent a narcissist?

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Is your co-parent a narcissist?

Sometimes the parent that is co-parenting, living under the same roof with their partner, raising a child together with that partner and that partner is a narcissistic. The question comes up, "How am I going to protect me child from the narcissist? I know my partner loves the child but the issues of narcissism are scary to me and I am worried about the affect on my child. What do I do?" You are living with this person in this relationship, you are raising this child some of the same rules of parenting would apply to the non-narcissist. We don't discuss it in front of the child obviously. It needs to be talked about away from the child so that certain strategies need to be implemented that allow for benefit of the doubt. "I know you love the child. I know you love our child, but I have some concerns. I don't think it is your intention. I don't think that you do it on purpose but I am worried about the effects." So there needs to be so kind of call to- some kind of awakening to action. Getting help, getting some professional help together as parents. Parenting is hard. I coach parents to say to their narcissistic partners, "Parenting is hard. We do the best that we can, but perhaps we can do even better. Why don't we get some help." So these are the gentlest ways. If it is really abrasive narcissism that is dangerous or deleterious t the child's well-being limits have to be set. There is no waiting. We set a limit. We protect the child. That is number 1.

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Wendy T. Behary, LCSW

Psychotherapist & Author

With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy is also the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST).

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of the New Harbinger Publication (1st and upcoming 2nd edition) Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. She is also an expert in coaching individuals in interviewing, public speaking, and interpersonal skills enhancement.

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