Using schema therapy to treat narcissism

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Using schema therapy to treat narcissism

Schema therapy is the approach that I use in psychotherapy. It was developed by Dr. Jeffrey Young and it was designed specifically for challenging treatment populations, narcissism being one of them. And we've been very excited about the effects of schema of therapy and working this population. What that means is that we help the narcissist to look more deeply at understanding the origins of the narcissism. So we're paying a lot attention through the work in the therapy relationship that becomes like the little microcosm of the world out there. This relationship although it's quite different from other relationships, it's still a relationship. It becomes the place where we can practice telling the truth. Communicating from a more vulnerable place in the God. Understanding with some empathy and some compassionate times for their experiences that formed this personality style. I'd like to say to them, "you know, t's not your fault but it is your responsibility". You have a responsibility to your children. You have a responsibility to your family. And if you want to take advantage of this opportunity, there's a way for you to be able to be more comfortable in your own skin because they're not. So often they're just not comfortable on their skin which why they have all these masks that they wear and all of this coping modes that becomes so off living to everyone out there. The primary focus in Schema therapy especially with narcissist is re-parenting. It's about meeting needs. It's about discovering the needs that were inadequately met like being loved unconditionally and feeling good about yourself for who you are and getting that need met in the therapy relationship and through experiential strategies that we use in the model.

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Wendy T. Behary, LCSW

Psychotherapist & Author

With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy is also the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST).

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of the New Harbinger Publication (1st and upcoming 2nd edition) Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. She is also an expert in coaching individuals in interviewing, public speaking, and interpersonal skills enhancement.

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