Profile of a narcissistic father

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Profile of a narcissistic father

The literature suggests that there are more narcissistic males than females about 75%. The reason for this would be explained by socialization with male children, emphasis on performance, emphasis on job and activity, emphasis on competition, natural born aggression to some degree. There is plenty of room of who can give men their run when it comes to narcissism so there is overlap as well in the deeper population. Narcissistic fathers however, that is a pretty serious matter when it comes to the effects on children because so much of the emphasis, the importance in that parenting relationship is about how you are showing up in the world. What your contribution looks like, so the child is getting the message that it’s not who you are but it’s what you do, how you perform, how well you achieve, how well you excel, how others notice it, that’s going to make the difference in terms of your acceptance by the father, your acceptance by the community and so there’s a demanding that comes from a narcissistic dad. There’s often times high criticalness if the child isn’t as perfect as the father expects because it’s the extension of him.

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Wendy T. Behary, LCSW

Psychotherapist & Author

With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy is also the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST).

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of the New Harbinger Publication (1st and upcoming 2nd edition) Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. She is also an expert in coaching individuals in interviewing, public speaking, and interpersonal skills enhancement.

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