How to encourage children to have a voice and be respectful

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How to encourage children to have a voice and be respectful

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Have you ever met a really sassy, confident, great leader who you thought man that guy's really got it going? Or that gal is really a sharp leader? If we went back in time and we talk to their parents, they would say, oh! This two year old was horrible! Bossed everybody around. Lined the bears up and told them what they're going to do. When we're talking about allowing children to develop their voice, to share their opinion is with their family members, to help create family policy they are not going to neat and tidy. They're job is to start to learn how to grow into an amazing leader, an amazing communicator who can communicate respectfully. I think parents are tougher than they give themselves credit for. I don't really think we wilt if we have a 7 year old who puts her hands on her hips and says, I am not wearing that to school today. If we just stop and think, what has been the evolutionary trajectory of this kid? From a 2 year old who said no all the time, to a 5 year old who was a little bit more cooperative, to a 7 year old who is demanding some equal rights, to a 13 year old who is now using a respectful tone, to a 16 year old who can negotiate respectfully and well to a 22 year old who can fight for her own rights. So if parents understand that this is a natural maturation process, it can take a little bit of the edge off, and it won't be used against them. That this is exactly what kids are supposed to do - growing and learning and changing while they're in the home with mom and dad.

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Vicki Hoefle

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Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator with over 20 years experience teaching parents, educators and caregivers how to raise respectful, responsible and resilient children. Hoefle combines her expertise in Adlerian Psychology and as an International Coaching Federation certified coach to bring parents Duct Tape Parenting, a sustainable and proactive parenting strategy that provides time-tested tools for harvesting a happy and peaceful family life. Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator and educator. Hoefle is a mother of six and lives in Middlebury, Vermont.

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