How to change existing negative behavior in children

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How to change existing negative behavior in children

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It's important for parents to recognize that it doesn't matter if their children have been exhibiting pesky negative behaviors for two years, five years, seven years, or twenty years. It's possible for change. It may take a little longer depending on the age of the child, but it's possible. And it's really very simple once you create a new plan in your own head as the parent. So if your connection with this child has been through power struggles - it's cold out and he wants to wear shorts. And you're like, no you're wearing your wind pants. And he's like, no. And that's the relationship all of the time, what changes it is my response to that invitation to the power struggle. So if it's cold out, and my child says, I'm wearing shorts, and what he expects is for me to say, no you're not, I can say, okay. Wear shorts. And let it go. And watch in that moment as suddenly there's a new look on his face as he realizes something different is happening. If you did that over the course of a couple of weeks, your child would have to change because your responses to him were changing. That's the power of this approach to parenting. We're back in the driver's seat as parents. When we change, the kids have to change. It's that simple.

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Vicki Hoefle

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Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator with over 20 years experience teaching parents, educators and caregivers how to raise respectful, responsible and resilient children. Hoefle combines her expertise in Adlerian Psychology and as an International Coaching Federation certified coach to bring parents Duct Tape Parenting, a sustainable and proactive parenting strategy that provides time-tested tools for harvesting a happy and peaceful family life. Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator and educator. Hoefle is a mother of six and lives in Middlebury, Vermont.

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