Embracing differences in your child

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Embracing differences in your child

From the time my son could choose what he was going to wear, could express himself, I knew that he was this special, flamboyant, fabulous creature and I wanted to allow him to have his expression. And I wanted to meet him where he was, to love him exactly as he was; how he presents himself – however that is. I remember, when I had a daughter, and then when my son was born, I was so shocked that he was different. I thought that he was going to be just as my daughter. And the biggest gift that my son has given me is the ability to allow both of my children to have the room to grow and express themselves however they desire. My son specifically happens to dress and want to present as a girl. That does make him specifically different. It doesn’t make him any less lovable. It doesn’t make him any less perfect. It doesn’t make him any less special and profoundly wonderful in my eyes. So we meet them where they are. I meet my daughter where she is, I meet my son where he is. They might be a little bit more conforming as to what a culture might determine they should be – my daughter might present more like a girl, my son might present more like a girl – but they’re both special and perfect exactly as they are.

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Connor Barnas is blessed and busy, living life with her husband Ethan and two children, Magdalena June, eight, and Augustus Wolfe, six in the midst of finding the sacred in the mundane and allowing space for serenity. After being given the gift of desperation, Connor began her life of recovery and discovery within the 12 Step paradigms in 1995. In 2002 she graduated from the University of New Mexico with a bachelor’s degree in Fine Art and married the love of her life, Ethan; moved to a beautiful, dusty, desert town; and began her journey as a wife and mother.  

In 2003, Connor co-founded an Attachment Parenting group, and became a leader shortly after.  Connor has been involved in the Attachment Parenting community as a leader and a resource, and was honored as a featured volunteer during Volunteer Recognition Week, April 2011 by Attachment Parenting International. 

After relocating and settling in Jacksonville, Florida, to be close to her family of origin, Connor founded HAP East, a local homeschooling group whose focus and mission is to create community and continuity of relationship for homeschooling/attachment parenting families. 

Connor joyfully shares her experience, strength and hope with families and friends in the recovery, homeschool, and AP communities; she combines the spiritual principles of the 12 steps with the practical and compassionate parenting strategies of API to inform her path and growth as a woman, mother, wife, and active member of her world. 

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