Extended family judgment

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Extended family judgment

Since I became a parent I feel like I've been swimming upstream in a fish bowl, because I've made different parenting choices than my mom, than my aunt, than my grandparents. So as my son develops and decides that he wants to present as a girl, it's just going to be another level of inviting my family into the process of being in this experience with us where we put connection and love above everything else; where we make our priority that not what a culture might expect from us but rather what we know in our hearts to be the right thing to do. And I know that supporting my son and allowing him to dress as he chooses and to express himself as he chooses is the right thing to do for our family. And I will just invite my cousins who were shocked when I breastfed past a month, who couldn't believe that I would just make different parenting choices than the rest of my family would. So we're just going to invite our family along for the ride and stand by our choices and allow our children to grow and thrive in an environment where they know they're loved and supported unconditionally. And our family will love them exactly as they are. The choice is that, or to not be around them and enjoy them, and I don't think anybody is going to choose that.

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Connor Barnas is blessed and busy, living life with her husband Ethan and two children, Magdalena June, eight, and Augustus Wolfe, six in the midst of finding the sacred in the mundane and allowing space for serenity. After being given the gift of desperation, Connor began her life of recovery and discovery within the 12 Step paradigms in 1995. In 2002 she graduated from the University of New Mexico with a bachelor’s degree in Fine Art and married the love of her life, Ethan; moved to a beautiful, dusty, desert town; and began her journey as a wife and mother.  

In 2003, Connor co-founded an Attachment Parenting group, and became a leader shortly after.  Connor has been involved in the Attachment Parenting community as a leader and a resource, and was honored as a featured volunteer during Volunteer Recognition Week, April 2011 by Attachment Parenting International. 

After relocating and settling in Jacksonville, Florida, to be close to her family of origin, Connor founded HAP East, a local homeschooling group whose focus and mission is to create community and continuity of relationship for homeschooling/attachment parenting families. 

Connor joyfully shares her experience, strength and hope with families and friends in the recovery, homeschool, and AP communities; she combines the spiritual principles of the 12 steps with the practical and compassionate parenting strategies of API to inform her path and growth as a woman, mother, wife, and active member of her world. 

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