Societal challenges with cross-dressing child

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Societal challenges with cross-dressing child

As my son has become more specific in his desire to express himself as a girl, be seen as a girl, and present himself as a girl, my first reaction -- because he has always dressed in tutus at home and in lots of silks and scarfs and fabulously, when we are out. It wasn't a shock, but when he first said the words, "I don't want you to correct somebody when they call me a girl," or "I want to be seen as a girl;" my heart stopped. Not because it made him any less perfect, but because my biggest fear is that he is going to be hurt. That's where my -- That's where I took pause. I see a culture and a society that doesn't accept it. That is cold and hard and mean. I want easy for my son. I want a garden pathway that just opens up and is beautiful and perfect. I don't want complexity. I don't want difficult, but I don't know how that is going to present with anybody. We don't know how it is going to present. So, for my son, however he chooses to express himself, I needed to be there with him as part of his family, so that he knows that he is always loved for exactly who he is with us; so that he can go out into the world and thrive, not just survive.

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Connor Barnas is blessed and busy, living life with her husband Ethan and two children, Magdalena June, eight, and Augustus Wolfe, six in the midst of finding the sacred in the mundane and allowing space for serenity. After being given the gift of desperation, Connor began her life of recovery and discovery within the 12 Step paradigms in 1995. In 2002 she graduated from the University of New Mexico with a bachelor’s degree in Fine Art and married the love of her life, Ethan; moved to a beautiful, dusty, desert town; and began her journey as a wife and mother.  

In 2003, Connor co-founded an Attachment Parenting group, and became a leader shortly after.  Connor has been involved in the Attachment Parenting community as a leader and a resource, and was honored as a featured volunteer during Volunteer Recognition Week, April 2011 by Attachment Parenting International. 

After relocating and settling in Jacksonville, Florida, to be close to her family of origin, Connor founded HAP East, a local homeschooling group whose focus and mission is to create community and continuity of relationship for homeschooling/attachment parenting families. 

Connor joyfully shares her experience, strength and hope with families and friends in the recovery, homeschool, and AP communities; she combines the spiritual principles of the 12 steps with the practical and compassionate parenting strategies of API to inform her path and growth as a woman, mother, wife, and active member of her world. 

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