Gender identity and cross-dressing

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Gender identity and cross-dressing

Other than just presenting like a girl and dressing like a girl, my son tends to love to be the nurturer. He loves to play with dolls. He loves to play with barbies. He loves to play with mermaids in the tub. Part of my husband and my desire to give him the opportunity because he has a sister and a cousin that he has grown up with, two girls. And part of our desire to give him the opportunity to explore all of his fluid expression, I want to say okay you have taken ballet. Do you want to play soccer? Would you like to have a play date with Isaac today or would you like to just be with Frida? One of the answers that my son has given me is that you know mom, when I am with the girls, I want to be a girl. Sometimes when I am with my other buddies, it is okay that I am a boy. But I believe that he finds his comfort in being a nurturer. He is not a natural, rough and tumble, destructo person. And I do not know if that necessarily means he is less boy and more girl or if that is just part of who he is. And this is part of the struggle in our culturally divided, gender specific society. There is not a lot of room for a child who is not all boy or all girl. So he exists in that fluid place where when he is with the boys, he is alittle more boy but when he is with the girls, he is all girl.

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Connor Barnas is blessed and busy, living life with her husband Ethan and two children, Magdalena June, eight, and Augustus Wolfe, six in the midst of finding the sacred in the mundane and allowing space for serenity. After being given the gift of desperation, Connor began her life of recovery and discovery within the 12 Step paradigms in 1995. In 2002 she graduated from the University of New Mexico with a bachelor’s degree in Fine Art and married the love of her life, Ethan; moved to a beautiful, dusty, desert town; and began her journey as a wife and mother.  

In 2003, Connor co-founded an Attachment Parenting group, and became a leader shortly after.  Connor has been involved in the Attachment Parenting community as a leader and a resource, and was honored as a featured volunteer during Volunteer Recognition Week, April 2011 by Attachment Parenting International. 

After relocating and settling in Jacksonville, Florida, to be close to her family of origin, Connor founded HAP East, a local homeschooling group whose focus and mission is to create community and continuity of relationship for homeschooling/attachment parenting families. 

Connor joyfully shares her experience, strength and hope with families and friends in the recovery, homeschool, and AP communities; she combines the spiritual principles of the 12 steps with the practical and compassionate parenting strategies of API to inform her path and growth as a woman, mother, wife, and active member of her world. 

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