Cross-dressing and sexual identity

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Cross-dressing and sexual identity

You know, my son has dressed, has preferred to dress in fabulous, flamboyant, theatrical, feminine, girl clothes forever, and I have been asked, "Does that mean he's gay? Is he a cross-dresser? Is he transgendered?" and I don', I think that misses the point. The point is right now he's absolutely in the moment, living as a child, figuring out who he is, how does he express himself, how does he dress, how does he move around in society, how does he navigate the world, what does it feel like to be in his body and presenting in a specific way. So, it's not that it's irrelevant, but it's not a part of our question now. He may turn out to be any number of ways, presenting it with his sexual identification or his gender-specific identification, but right now all that matters is that we're supporting him and allowing him to figure out who he is.

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Connor Barnas is blessed and busy, living life with her husband Ethan and two children, Magdalena June, eight, and Augustus Wolfe, six in the midst of finding the sacred in the mundane and allowing space for serenity. After being given the gift of desperation, Connor began her life of recovery and discovery within the 12 Step paradigms in 1995. In 2002 she graduated from the University of New Mexico with a bachelor’s degree in Fine Art and married the love of her life, Ethan; moved to a beautiful, dusty, desert town; and began her journey as a wife and mother.  

In 2003, Connor co-founded an Attachment Parenting group, and became a leader shortly after.  Connor has been involved in the Attachment Parenting community as a leader and a resource, and was honored as a featured volunteer during Volunteer Recognition Week, April 2011 by Attachment Parenting International. 

After relocating and settling in Jacksonville, Florida, to be close to her family of origin, Connor founded HAP East, a local homeschooling group whose focus and mission is to create community and continuity of relationship for homeschooling/attachment parenting families. 

Connor joyfully shares her experience, strength and hope with families and friends in the recovery, homeschool, and AP communities; she combines the spiritual principles of the 12 steps with the practical and compassionate parenting strategies of API to inform her path and growth as a woman, mother, wife, and active member of her world. 

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