Identifying as opposite gender

See Connor Barnas's video on Identifying as opposite gender...
Identifying as opposite gender | Kids in the House
KidsInTheHouse the Ultimate Parenting Resource
Kids in the House Tour

Identifying as opposite gender

You know, my son has beautiful, long eyelashes and big, curly hair and forever, people have said, “Oh, what a beautiful, little girl.” And I’ve always said, “Oh, he’s a boy.” Recently, he asked me – after he told me that he wanted his hair to grow out, so that he would be seen as a girl – he asked me to please not correct people when they said, “Oh, what a beautiful daughter you have.” Or, “Isn’t she pretty?” And the first time it happened we were in a hospital and a nurse poked her head in and saw my two children and said, “Oh, what beautiful girls you have.” My son shot me a look to check in with me, I looked at the nurse and I just said, “Thank you very much.” And in that moment, that’s connection. That’s when my son looks at me and I support his choice. That’s when he knows he can trust me.

See Connor Barnas's video on Identifying as opposite gender...


Expert Bio

More from Expert

Connor Barnas


Connor Barnas is blessed and busy, living life with her husband Ethan and two children, Magdalena June, eight, and Augustus Wolfe, six in the midst of finding the sacred in the mundane and allowing space for serenity. After being given the gift of desperation, Connor began her life of recovery and discovery within the 12 Step paradigms in 1995. In 2002 she graduated from the University of New Mexico with a bachelor’s degree in Fine Art and married the love of her life, Ethan; moved to a beautiful, dusty, desert town; and began her journey as a wife and mother.  

In 2003, Connor co-founded an Attachment Parenting group, and became a leader shortly after.  Connor has been involved in the Attachment Parenting community as a leader and a resource, and was honored as a featured volunteer during Volunteer Recognition Week, April 2011 by Attachment Parenting International. 

After relocating and settling in Jacksonville, Florida, to be close to her family of origin, Connor founded HAP East, a local homeschooling group whose focus and mission is to create community and continuity of relationship for homeschooling/attachment parenting families. 

Connor joyfully shares her experience, strength and hope with families and friends in the recovery, homeschool, and AP communities; she combines the spiritual principles of the 12 steps with the practical and compassionate parenting strategies of API to inform her path and growth as a woman, mother, wife, and active member of her world. 

More Parenting Videos from Connor Barnas >
Enter your email to
download & subscribe
to our newsletter