Do men or women cheat more?

Tammy Nelson, PhD talks about whether men or women cheat more, and why
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Do men or women cheat more?

So the percentage of men versus women that cheat, it's hard to get those statistics, frankly because women hide their affairs and men brag about their affairs. So right now, we think about 65% of men will cheat at any point during their marriage, and about 55% of women. However, we're not really sure, because the statistics go anywhere from 25-75%. Now I think that's because right now in this age of technology and social media and everyone walking around with a handheld device, it's really easy to cheat. And how do you define cheating? So is cheating when you masturbate online with someone on a webcam? Or is cheating going to a strip club? Or is cheating having a Facebook friend from the past? Is cheating having an emotional relationship with someone via email? This is really the first time in history that you can cheat on your partner lying in bed next to them. We've never had this before. So the percentage of women that cheat is probably much closer to the percentage of men that cheat than ever before. Why? Because most affairs happen because of opportunity. And now women have just as much opportunity as men have ever had. It used to be that women lived way out in the country, on the farms, in rural areas, they didn't have cars, they didn't go to work, they didn't have transportation. They didn't have the opportunity to cheat. They cheated with like the mailman or the milkman. That's really where that cliché comes from, because it was true. That was the only person they could cheat with. Today women are in the workplace. They have social media. They have the opportunity to cheat just like men do, so it's probably pretty close, even though we would say probably 65% of men and 55% of women will cheat at any point in their marriage. That's more than half of everyone.

Tammy Nelson, PhD talks about whether men or women cheat more, and why


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Tammy Nelson, PhD

Psychotherapist & Relationship Expert

Tammy Nelson PhD is the author of several books including, “Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together”  (2008) and  “What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia (2004)” and her latest  book “The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity” (January 2013) is receiving critical acclaim.  She has been a featured expert in New York Times, Washington Post, Self,  Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC,  Shape, Men’s Health, Women’s Health Woman’s Day, Women’s Health, and a source in Time Magazine. She writes for the Huffington Post, YourTango and can be followed on her blog

Tammy Nelson is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist and an Imago Relationship Therapist.  She is an international speaker and a licensed psychotherapist in private practice with over 25 years of experience working with individuals and couples.  She travels and lectures internationally on her quest for global relational change.

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