The six stages of recovering from an affair

Tammy Nelson, PhD outlines the six steps you should take to heal your relationship after infidelity
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The six stages of recovering from an affair

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So there are really six steps to getting over an affair. Think about me, just for a while, while the crisis is going on. Number two, let yourself have your feelings. Think about how I'm feeling. Let yourself feel them. And get past them. Number three, have a night out. Don't talk about the affair. Keep it light and polite. Number four, work on your new monogamy agreement. What do I want in this relationship going forward? And if it's going to work, if we're going to stay together, we need to start talking about that. Number five, work on erotic recovery. Don't wait until you feel safe enough to have sex. Talk about your sex life now. If you're going to have sex and it's going to work, make it happen as soon as you're able. And number six, give yourself the space to create the vision of the new marriage together that you want. Not just the marriage that you think you should have or that your parents think you should have. The marriage that you want to create as a new couple with a new monogamy.

Tammy Nelson, PhD outlines the six steps you should take to heal your relationship after infidelity

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Tammy Nelson, PhD

Psychotherapist & Relationship Expert

Tammy Nelson PhD is the author of several books including, “Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together”  (2008) and  “What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia (2004)” and her latest  book “The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity” (January 2013) is receiving critical acclaim.  She has been a featured expert in New York Times, Washington Post, Self,  Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC,  Shape, Men’s Health, Women’s Health Woman’s Day, Women’s Health, and a source in Time Magazine. She writes for the Huffington Post, YourTango and can be followed on her blog www.drtammynelson.com/blog/.

Tammy Nelson is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist and an Imago Relationship Therapist.  She is an international speaker and a licensed psychotherapist in private practice with over 25 years of experience working with individuals and couples.  She travels and lectures internationally on her quest for global relational change.

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