When marriages become vulnerable to affair

Tammy Nelson, PhD tells couples how to prevent infidelity in marriages by keeping communication open and honest
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When marriages become vulnerable to affair

So what makes a relationship vulnerable to an affair? And what can you do to affair proof your marriage? Affair-proofing a marriage is not a magical formula. I can tell you however that the number one way to prevent an affair is to be honest with your partner, even about the really hard things like when you are attracted to someone else. The things that you actually think might be better off shared are sometimes the things that could prevent problems later on. You think it is hard to go home and tell your partner I actually am feeling attracted to someone at work, it is even harder to come home and tell your partner I am having an affair with someone at work. So even though it feels counter-intuitive, which means it feels like I shouldn´t do it, the things that you are worried about now, that are problems in the making, are better to share and be honest about now than later on after they become real problems that could break you up. And even this is a really difficult time in your life because you are vulnerable to an affair, it is a much easier thing to repair and to start a habit of open communication and transparency now early in a relationship than later on. We all have conflict. Conflict is inevitable. What´s important is how you resolve your conflict and how you talk through your problems.

Tammy Nelson, PhD tells couples how to prevent infidelity in marriages by keeping communication open and honest


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Tammy Nelson, PhD

Psychotherapist & Relationship Expert

Tammy Nelson PhD is the author of several books including, “Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together”  (2008) and  “What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia (2004)” and her latest  book “The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity” (January 2013) is receiving critical acclaim.  She has been a featured expert in New York Times, Washington Post, Self,  Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC,  Shape, Men’s Health, Women’s Health Woman’s Day, Women’s Health, and a source in Time Magazine. She writes for the Huffington Post, YourTango and can be followed on her blog www.drtammynelson.com/blog/.

Tammy Nelson is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist and an Imago Relationship Therapist.  She is an international speaker and a licensed psychotherapist in private practice with over 25 years of experience working with individuals and couples.  She travels and lectures internationally on her quest for global relational change.

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