What should I teach my child about first relationships

Relationship expert Dr. John Gray offers advice to teens about dating and relationships
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What should I teach my child about first relationships

Most children have no idea to have relationships today. We see them on TV. We wonder how do you do that. They need their parents´guidance here. And you don´t have to be overly teaching them but a few hints can make a huge difference. For example, one of the big questions that comes up is: After a girl has spent time with a guy on a date or they have spent time together, she wants to talk to him. Should she call him? Should she not call him? Because after a date, he tends to go that was wonderful and his attention goes somewhere else, but it will come back to her. But what she will tend to do is call and ask questions like what´s the matter, don´t you feel something, don´t you care for me, didn´t you have a good time, and it is not the time to ask those questions. So can she call him back? Yes, but not right away and when she does call him back, if he doesn´t call her, just call to let him know, maybe ask him a question about something that he is good at or tell him about what´s going on in your life but don´t try to pursue what his feelings are. One of the big complaints for grown men as well as for teenagers is girls will tend to ask questions to get reassurance on where are we at in the relationship and the best thing is not to ask those questions but instead to create a sense of what a good time you had together, appreciate the time you had, maybe suggest we get together at a certain time, not too pushy but create an openness so you are giving him the message that you are still interested in him and you are certainly not mad at him for calling back.
TEEN, Social Life, Dating

Relationship expert Dr. John Gray offers advice to teens about dating and relationships


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John Gray, PhD

Best-Selling Author

John Gray is the leading relationship expert in the world. His relationship and health books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages. His groundbreaking book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, is the best-selling non-fiction book of all time.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance. His many books, videos, workshops and seminars provide practical insights to effectively manage stress and improve relationships at all stages of life and love.

John also travels the world teaching communities and companies the best ways to improve their relationships and communication. He has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show many times as well as The Dr. Oz Show, The Today Show, CBS Morning Show, Good Morning America, The Early Show, The View, and many others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today and People.

John Gray lives in Northern California with his wife of 29 years, Bonnie. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.

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