Why boys don't call back

Relationship expert Dr. John Gray explains why boys don't always call back, and demystifies how teen boys think
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Why boys don't call back

For teenage girls, it is really important to understand boys. And as parents, we can help explain this to them. They need to be prepared because boys tend to be attracted physically first. So they will be really attracted to a girl just from the physical attraction, but if they connect with her fully by having sex, for example, right away, after sex boys will completely lose interest. If she slows the process down and he has to meet her, get to know her, and forms a friendship, if he still wants her sexually, now there is a greater bond. And if he gets to know her over time, then after the sexual experience he is still bonded to her emotionally and mentally. However, if it is just sex, his tendency is to pull away and a girl´s tendency is to feel like I am bonded to him. What is he thinking? What is the matter? What is going on? To the extend she becomes more attached, he tends to become detached unless he is also bonded to her on an emotional and mental level. So it is time to go slow. If you don´t give it away for free, it creates a greater desire, a greater interest and gives time for that bonding to take place.
TEEN, Social Life, Dating

Relationship expert Dr. John Gray explains why boys don't always call back, and demystifies how teen boys think


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John Gray, PhD

Best-Selling Author

John Gray is the leading relationship expert in the world. His relationship and health books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages. His groundbreaking book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, is the best-selling non-fiction book of all time.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance. His many books, videos, workshops and seminars provide practical insights to effectively manage stress and improve relationships at all stages of life and love.

John also travels the world teaching communities and companies the best ways to improve their relationships and communication. He has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show many times as well as The Dr. Oz Show, The Today Show, CBS Morning Show, Good Morning America, The Early Show, The View, and many others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today and People.

John Gray lives in Northern California with his wife of 29 years, Bonnie. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.

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