Teens staying in an abusive relationship

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Teens staying in an abusive relationship

I think it's easy to see why anyone would stay in an abusive relationship, much less, a teenager; and that's love. I think, love, for somebody -- No matter what is going on in the relationship; there's been good times and there has been bad times. A lot of times, we start to put roots down in a relationship. To say that no matter what happens in a relationship, we would leave if it got bad. It's not that simple. A lot of times, when you are a teenager, sometimes your relationship is the biggest status thing you have in your life. So, to leave may actually damage your popularity. It could damage your relationships. You have to understand that a teenager may have tons of reasons for staying in a relationship, that aren't necessarily attached to the relationship. When you start to think about things like power and control, maybe the partner is saying, "I'm going to commit suicide," or "I'm going to hurt myself." There might be that reason that the person is being guilted into staying in the relationship. If I leave, this person is going to hurt themselves. There could be power and control in a relationship. It could be issues about friendship, and it could also be that they just care about their partner still.

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Abuse Helpline Coordinator

Brian Pinero is the director of the National Dating Abuse Helpline, the advocacy service provider behind loveisrespect.org. Through loveisrespect, teens and young adults can receive crisis intervention and education about healthy relationships via text, chat or phone. Pinero has dedicated over 10 years to helping teens and has previously supervised youth shelter services, been an investigator at Child Protective Services and worked as a juvenile probation officer. 

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