Queen Bee Mothers and Kingpin Fathers

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Queen Bee Mothers and Kingpin Fathers

A Queen Bee Mom is somebody who usually believes that they have the absolute best of intentions towards everything and is ruthlessly aggressive with everybody in their child's life. The coach, the teachers the administrator and then even if their child did something wrong it was because something else happen to them first that justified that their child did something wrong that is if they even admit it in the first place. A King Pin Dad is somebody who basically feels the same way, who feels like they're going to come in and their job is to protect their child and protect their child actually means protecting them from being held accountable, protecting them for realizing their obligations to other people. It really comes from in a very weird way the best of intentions. They do not wake up in the morning Queens Bee Mom, and King Pin Dads did not wake up in the morning and say to themselves I am going to be a horrible enabling parent. What they believe is their job is to protect their children and be their child's advocate and that gets them to a really crazy place. Where actually the opposite is true which is that they teach their child that if they're above the law and that is something that we have way too much of and we've got to stop it and the thing that we can do is that parents were to look at their behavior and say; Wait a minute, what's my goal here? If they can get to the place then they can change the way they're behaving and I've had a lot of parents came to me and say: I didn't realize what I was doing and I am really trying to change.

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Rosalind Wiseman

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Rosalind Wiseman is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership. Rosalind is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the groundbreaking, fully-revised edition of her bestselling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her follow-up book, Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, addresses the social hierarchies and conflicts among parents and is now being made into a major motion picture by New Line Cinema. In 2010, Rosalind published the  young adult novel Boys, Girls, & Other Hazardous Materials, which was recognized by the American Library Association as one of their Most Popular Paperbacks for Young Adults.  She is now writing a set of companion books for boys and their parents, scheduled for publication in the Fall of 2013. In addition, Rosalind has written the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6-12 which is in widespread use across the country.  She writes the monthly “Ask Rosalind” column in Family Circle magazine, and is regular contributor to several blogs and websites. Also, Rosalind is a spokesperson for LG’s Text-Education Council that aims to inform parents about responsible monitoring of teen cell phone usage. Each year Rosalind works with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. In 2011, she was one of the principal speakers at the White House Summit on Bullying.  Other audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, International Chiefs of Police, American Association of School Administrators, and countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad. National media regularly depends on Rosalind as the expert on ethical leadership, media literacy, and bullying prevention.  She is a consultant for Cartoon Network’s Speak Up, Stop Bullying campaign. She is a frequent guest on the Today Show, Anderson Cooper 360 and Dateline.  She has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country. Rosalind holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

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