How to confront other parents

Author and Bullying Expert Rosalind Wiseman shares advice on how to respond and respectfully confront other parents of a child that your child is having problems with
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How to confront other parents

When you're angry at other parents, usually what that really means is you're disappointed by the way that they've reacted to a problem that your kids are having and how you respond to that can either be really get in their face about it or you can like hide behind a fern and never talk to them about it at all. If you're going to ask your children to talk to people and stand up for bullying or stand up when they're in a conflict, you have to do it yourself or else you have no credibility with your child. Another part is you need to do this. It's important. It's not going to be World War III if you handle yourself with confidence and with dignity. So, the thing that I would do is also think about what not to do which is don't start this on Facebook, don't try and talk about like things in generalities. You talk to the parent in exactly the way that I would suggest you talk to your kid. You think about when and where you would talk to that person. You say exactly what's bothering you that you don't like and what you want and you start off by saying, "You know what? This is really uncomfortable for me to talk about but I thought it was so important and you would want to know that I'm taking the chance and talking to about it." So, if you set it in that kind of framework, then most parents calm down. And the other part is that if you sit on it and sit on it and then you go up to that person and you're really angry or really anxious, the person is going to shut down. So, I'm really asking you to take a step back and think about when and where and how do I conduct myself.

Author and Bullying Expert Rosalind Wiseman shares advice on how to respond and respectfully confront other parents of a child that your child is having problems with


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Rosalind Wiseman

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Rosalind Wiseman is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership. Rosalind is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the groundbreaking, fully-revised edition of her bestselling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her follow-up book, Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, addresses the social hierarchies and conflicts among parents and is now being made into a major motion picture by New Line Cinema. In 2010, Rosalind published the  young adult novel Boys, Girls, & Other Hazardous Materials, which was recognized by the American Library Association as one of their Most Popular Paperbacks for Young Adults.  She is now writing a set of companion books for boys and their parents, scheduled for publication in the Fall of 2013. In addition, Rosalind has written the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6-12 which is in widespread use across the country.  She writes the monthly “Ask Rosalind” column in Family Circle magazine, and is regular contributor to several blogs and websites. Also, Rosalind is a spokesperson for LG’s Text-Education Council that aims to inform parents about responsible monitoring of teen cell phone usage. Each year Rosalind works with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. In 2011, she was one of the principal speakers at the White House Summit on Bullying.  Other audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, International Chiefs of Police, American Association of School Administrators, and countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad. National media regularly depends on Rosalind as the expert on ethical leadership, media literacy, and bullying prevention.  She is a consultant for Cartoon Network’s Speak Up, Stop Bullying campaign. She is a frequent guest on the Today Show, Anderson Cooper 360 and Dateline.  She has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country. Rosalind holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

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