How girls try to get boys' attention

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How girls try to get boys' attention

Fruit Cup Girl is a term I came up with when I was teaching a group of 6th grade girls and they told me about a story where one girl had a huge crush on an older boy in the seventh grade. And they were going on a field trip. And at lunch during the field trip, the girl decided she was going to get her courage up and she was going to sit next to the seventh grade boy. But she did not know how to talk to him. This was awhile ago, and they had those fruit cups with the pull tabs. And she pretended that she could not open the fruit cup and she gave it to the boy to open it for her so that she could start the conversation. And from there, the girls and I had this enormous conversation in my class about what the costs are of fruit cup girl and what are the benefits of fruit cup girl. The benefits are huge, which are you get the boy to talk to you. In fact, in this situation the boy sat next to her on the way home, which when you are in sixth grade is like huge, huge. But there are also some negatives, which is that girls can get really jealous when you have attention from a boy but, and this is a bigger and deeper reason for girls being negative about fruit cup girl, is that you see this girl selling herself out. You see this girl being not as good at or pretending to be weaker than she is so that she can´t open a fruit cup to get attention from a boy. And girls hate that. They don´t like that the girl is getting attention for selling herself out and so fruit cup girl is my way of talking to girls about this very messy thing that happens with girls where we sometimes in order to feel like we want to be attractive to boys is that we come across as not as good as we really are.

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Rosalind Wiseman is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership. Rosalind is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the groundbreaking, fully-revised edition of her bestselling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her follow-up book, Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, addresses the social hierarchies and conflicts among parents and is now being made into a major motion picture by New Line Cinema. In 2010, Rosalind published the  young adult novel Boys, Girls, & Other Hazardous Materials, which was recognized by the American Library Association as one of their Most Popular Paperbacks for Young Adults.  She is now writing a set of companion books for boys and their parents, scheduled for publication in the Fall of 2013. In addition, Rosalind has written the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6-12 which is in widespread use across the country.  She writes the monthly “Ask Rosalind” column in Family Circle magazine, and is regular contributor to several blogs and websites. Also, Rosalind is a spokesperson for LG’s Text-Education Council that aims to inform parents about responsible monitoring of teen cell phone usage. Each year Rosalind works with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. In 2011, she was one of the principal speakers at the White House Summit on Bullying.  Other audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, International Chiefs of Police, American Association of School Administrators, and countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad. National media regularly depends on Rosalind as the expert on ethical leadership, media literacy, and bullying prevention.  She is a consultant for Cartoon Network’s Speak Up, Stop Bullying campaign. She is a frequent guest on the Today Show, Anderson Cooper 360 and Dateline.  She has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country. Rosalind holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

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