Effective school policies to deal with Mean Girls

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Effective school policies to deal with Mean Girls

Well the most important policies the people need to put in place is making it so that it’s realistic. A policy that says girls cannot be mean to each other does not work. The kids are going to blow them off. The parents, some of the parents are going to blow them off. What’s very important is to give policies that actually people can wrap their heads around. What that means is saying, Okay here’s the policy. The policy is we understand the people are going to get into complex. We understand that. Here is how we want you to conduct yourself when you’re having a conflict. What that means is you cannot humiliate or degrade somebody in real life or online because online the impacts real life. How they conduct themselves in their school. If you do that like if you humiliate, if you degrade, if you participate in that, then we are going to discipline you right in the discipline means to teach. We are going to discipline you in a way that you understand that you are part of the community here. If you violate the social contract of what it means to be a participant in this community, then we are going to take away some of the rights that you have as a person here. Now, that really is going to depend on some ways of what is meaningful to the child. I always think frankly that one of the best policies that you can put into place for kids is not about suspension and it’s not about you’re bullying or anything like that. What it is, is kids who have social power and are abusing it. You take away their ability to sit where they want and on their free time in school, because they always sit in the place where other people can see them and where they can see other people. You take that away, they hate it which means it’s a very good punishment.

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Rosalind Wiseman is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership. Rosalind is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the groundbreaking, fully-revised edition of her bestselling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her follow-up book, Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, addresses the social hierarchies and conflicts among parents and is now being made into a major motion picture by New Line Cinema. In 2010, Rosalind published the  young adult novel Boys, Girls, & Other Hazardous Materials, which was recognized by the American Library Association as one of their Most Popular Paperbacks for Young Adults.  She is now writing a set of companion books for boys and their parents, scheduled for publication in the Fall of 2013. In addition, Rosalind has written the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6-12 which is in widespread use across the country.  She writes the monthly “Ask Rosalind” column in Family Circle magazine, and is regular contributor to several blogs and websites. Also, Rosalind is a spokesperson for LG’s Text-Education Council that aims to inform parents about responsible monitoring of teen cell phone usage. Each year Rosalind works with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. In 2011, she was one of the principal speakers at the White House Summit on Bullying.  Other audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, International Chiefs of Police, American Association of School Administrators, and countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad. National media regularly depends on Rosalind as the expert on ethical leadership, media literacy, and bullying prevention.  She is a consultant for Cartoon Network’s Speak Up, Stop Bullying campaign. She is a frequent guest on the Today Show, Anderson Cooper 360 and Dateline.  She has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country. Rosalind holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

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