The typical background of a Mean Girl

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The typical background of a Mean Girl

Queen Bees and Mean Girls can come from anywhere. Any neighborhood, any family, I've seen all different kinds of situations where parents think of themselves; how can I raise a kid that is so mean? And I beat myself up about it and I feel like I should have done something better and I really struggle with it. There are some parents who have very socially aggressive children. The majority are going to be okay if the parents hold them accountable, but at the same time what I really see the most is the parents were the most focus on presenting as if they have no problem and presenting as if they're are like the billboard of a family and that they're really focused on getting their children the right things for their community and looking like they're the perfect people that those kid for the most part can really suffer. What I mean by suffer is feeling like they have the right to be able to treat other people badly or feel that as long as you maintain the appearance or everything being perfect then you can do whatever you need to do in the background. That could be really troubling where it starts with middle school with mean girl behavior, and as the kids get older into high school that's what may get into problems that the parents worry about so much. With drinking and driving under the influence of drugs with inappropriate sexual behavior all those things because what happens is Queen Bees are so good at maintaining appearances that they are very good at going under people's radar and the people that they are the best getting under their radar is the parent.

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Rosalind Wiseman

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Rosalind Wiseman is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership. Rosalind is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the groundbreaking, fully-revised edition of her bestselling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her follow-up book, Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, addresses the social hierarchies and conflicts among parents and is now being made into a major motion picture by New Line Cinema. In 2010, Rosalind published the  young adult novel Boys, Girls, & Other Hazardous Materials, which was recognized by the American Library Association as one of their Most Popular Paperbacks for Young Adults.  She is now writing a set of companion books for boys and their parents, scheduled for publication in the Fall of 2013. In addition, Rosalind has written the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6-12 which is in widespread use across the country.  She writes the monthly “Ask Rosalind” column in Family Circle magazine, and is regular contributor to several blogs and websites. Also, Rosalind is a spokesperson for LG’s Text-Education Council that aims to inform parents about responsible monitoring of teen cell phone usage. Each year Rosalind works with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. In 2011, she was one of the principal speakers at the White House Summit on Bullying.  Other audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, International Chiefs of Police, American Association of School Administrators, and countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad. National media regularly depends on Rosalind as the expert on ethical leadership, media literacy, and bullying prevention.  She is a consultant for Cartoon Network’s Speak Up, Stop Bullying campaign. She is a frequent guest on the Today Show, Anderson Cooper 360 and Dateline.  She has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country. Rosalind holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

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