Gossiping, exclusion and following a Queen Bee

Rosalind Wiseman, Author & Educator, shares advice for parents on how to help their daughter handle other girls gossiping, excluding, and following a queen bee
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Gossiping, exclusion and following a Queen Bee

It would be nice if we could just make girls be nice to each other. That’s, unfortunately, not going to happen, because some girls have more social power; some girls are really charismatic; some girls want to use that charisma to have power over other people and feel like they can abuse other people. And you know, lots of times, they’re going through a phase of this and they will become decent human beings if their parents hold them accountable or their peers hold them accountable. So while it’s inevitable that girls are going to go through this process, it doesn’t mean they have to go through it alone. It means that you can be behind the scenes and that you are guiding your daughter through the process where whatever rules she’s playing, whatever thing that happens, you have got two things you’re focused on – one is you’re teaching her to be able to handle conflict with dignity for her own worth and maintaining the worth of other people and that she’s managing herself competently in a really, really difficult conflict. When that happens, your daughter is going to be okay. Because she’s not only going to be okay, she’s going to be better, because she’s going to get through this and be able to say, “Wait a minute, I know what I stand for no matter who is around me.”

Rosalind Wiseman, Author & Educator, shares advice for parents on how to help their daughter handle other girls gossiping, excluding, and following a queen bee


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Rosalind Wiseman

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Rosalind Wiseman is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership. Rosalind is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the groundbreaking, fully-revised edition of her bestselling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her follow-up book, Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, addresses the social hierarchies and conflicts among parents and is now being made into a major motion picture by New Line Cinema. In 2010, Rosalind published the  young adult novel Boys, Girls, & Other Hazardous Materials, which was recognized by the American Library Association as one of their Most Popular Paperbacks for Young Adults.  She is now writing a set of companion books for boys and their parents, scheduled for publication in the Fall of 2013. In addition, Rosalind has written the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6-12 which is in widespread use across the country.  She writes the monthly “Ask Rosalind” column in Family Circle magazine, and is regular contributor to several blogs and websites. Also, Rosalind is a spokesperson for LG’s Text-Education Council that aims to inform parents about responsible monitoring of teen cell phone usage. Each year Rosalind works with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. In 2011, she was one of the principal speakers at the White House Summit on Bullying.  Other audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, International Chiefs of Police, American Association of School Administrators, and countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad. National media regularly depends on Rosalind as the expert on ethical leadership, media literacy, and bullying prevention.  She is a consultant for Cartoon Network’s Speak Up, Stop Bullying campaign. She is a frequent guest on the Today Show, Anderson Cooper 360 and Dateline.  She has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country. Rosalind holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

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